Vulva Hug?
If I ever had Penis Envy, it would be because of what seems to be a normalized freedom to touch and explore. Men have been touching, playing with & exploring their penis’s since they could. And we still see it in sports, music performances, etc.
Yet girls have been taught to not touch “down there,” to close our legs, to be lady like. In other words, don’t explore and discover your Pleasure Power Portal!
We are doing the opposite in my PleasureMuse Vulva Hug Meditation.
With open legs & open hearts, I’m encouraging you to touch, feel and connect.
We are building a relationship that seems like it would be a given, but, it unfortunately is not. I know this from my personal journey AND from working with hundreds of clients. Our Yonis are “done-to” without ever taking the time to actually learn what feels good to them or checking in to see if they have any messages for us. That’s where the Vulva Hug comes in.
It’s through this simple act of intentional, conscious and connected touch of your Vulva, the external genitals, that we create a somatic dialogue to learn to listen to our body in a way that’s nurturing, regenerative, healing, and even arousing. Beginning with the outermost genitals is key for this area is usually the first to be IGNORED with the typical race to get in! This act of validation builds a sense of respect and reverence.
For “down there” is not dirty at all. It’s sacred. And there is much wisdom we can gain from the simple act of a hug.
I’ve always been challenged by meditation. Yet, one morning when I combined my embodiment principals with my signature Vulva Hug AND my attempt at meditation …✨💥🌺✨ magic happened. The Vulva Hug as a Meditation Practice was created.
I was unbelievably moved to tears at what became available. My busy mind and body never seemed to cooperate with meditation (even when I spent a ton of $ to get on the Transcendental Meditation train!) But, there was something about the body connection that was my biggest breakthrough. If my mind wandered, I brought my attention to my breath, and, most importantly, to feeling my hand placed upon my Vulva to notice the sensations. The physicality kept me present, allowing the breath and awareness to deepen. Before I knew it, 20 minutes had passed. It was my most successful meditation ever filled with a parasympathetic nervous system reboot! When I began doing it daily, I accessed even more love, comfort, & connection to mind, body, creativity, and even, my higher self.
And, my arousal and turn-on was warmed and available, like a simmering kettle. 🫖
The benefits have been reported by others as well:
From Pleasure: “I did your Vulva Hug and had so much positive feedback from my Vulva. She was happy to be asked about being touched. I was sooo aroused, waves of tingling sensations, increased blood flow. I felt if I had done it longer maybe I could have “come” with some manual stimulation. It was glorious,” Mary, age 51, nurse.
To Shame-busting: “I felt that my Vulva was disgraceful. Even hearing the name made me feel uncomfortable and that there was something wrong with it. I had shame because of all the things society and culture threw at me. And I realized, there wasn’t anything fundamentally wrong. She just needed a hug and attention like the rest of me. Each time I do my Vulva Hug Meditation, I feel more layers of shame lifting, less shy and more confident who She is and who I am,” SR, 26, Australia
To Healing: “I am a survivor of sexual assault and I sometimes have trouble getting turned on. I had never really tried holding my body like Dolly explains There is something so comforting about her Vulva Hug Meditation that grounds me and allows me to feel safe enough to feel pleasure,” Sydney, age 26, graphic designer.
Overall, here’s what a Vulva Hug Meditation can do for you:
Recharge your battery through low-grade arousal
Build a bridge of trust with your body
Calm your nervous system
Develop a safe practice to quiet a busy mind
Give your meditation practice a sensual upgrade
Embodiment
Somatic Awareness, Attunement, Dialoguing, & Consent
Connect mind, body & soul as you discover a new pleasure practice
Empower and fuel your erotic power & creative life force
Listen to your body’s needs
Activate your own healing and arousal
Nurture your Yin
How do I define a Vulva Hug? It’s a consensual cupping of your Vulva with your hands to bring in stillness, quiet, and “being with” vs. “being done-to.” When your Vulva feels safe, heard, and held, the rest of your pelvic floor anatomy can also relax, erotic potential is revealed, and healing, confidence, and playfulness become possible.
How do you give yourself a Vulva Hug? You first sit in a diamond position, begin to deepen your breath, and check in with your Vulva if it would be ok to give her a hug. If you get a yes, then you can introduce a light, medium or more firm hug/cupping of your hands. Settle on what feels best and continue to deepen your breaths and focus on the sensation of your hands on your Vulva. As you drop in and spend these precious moments with yourself, you may start to feel a sense of safety, security & grounding in the body that then allows subtle, sweet pleasure to gradually surface.
My mom just did her first Vulva Hug Meditation recently when I was caregiving for her during her cancer remission. I set up the video for her to watch and gave her privacy. When I came back into the room after the video was complete, she said she noticed warmth and peace. Then she thanked me. I said, “Actually thank you, your Vulva, your Vagina and all the rest of your anatomy for giving birth to me.”
She then peeked under her blanket, glanced toward her lower body that was still snuggled in her warm PJs and said to her body, “Thank you.” Then she said to me, “It’s unbelievable that we never acknowledge Her for all she does for us.”
Exactly, Mom!
So yes, ladies! If my mom can do this, so can you!
I’m asking you to open up your legs and give yourself a hug! A Vulva Hug! Power to the Pussy, for she is wise AF, and it’s time for you to claim it!
Get my guided 20 minute Vulva Hug Meditation HERE for the price of a manicure!