Your Holy Trinity to Vibrant Intimacy

Have you ever felt like you just needed to take a break, a self-induced time out to take inventory of life, feelings, and tend to your needs?  Do you even know what your needs are or do you fantasize about taking a well deserved sabbatical to figure it out?

Some of you know, while it may be surprising to others that I’ve been sick for about 7 years.

 It’s easy to hide because I could go strong for months on end, and then have a “crash” and need to recoup for a week or two.  And lately, I could only go strong for a few weeks before I needed my solitude to rest for as long as it took. I have all sorts of remedies, magic tonics, drawers full of high quality vitamins.  I have been to a gazillion doctors, both medical and naturopathic.  I have learned from both.  But this is only part of the solution.
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Why am I sharing this not-so-sexy topic with you?  Because your health matters.  Your self-esteem matters. The butterflies you feel in your belly matter.  If you IGNORE, Sshh, or NUMB out even the most subtle aches and pains or quiet the voices in your head, you are essentially telling your body it doesn’t matter.  And whether you realize it, this influences your confidence, decreases your pleasure potential, squeezes the life out of your intimate relationships, and negatively affects your sex drive.  Have I got your attention?

On my recent health sabbatical, I got clear that there needs to be balance between body, mind and soul for true health to be present.  And the way to access this harmonious trinity is through embodiment.  That’s right, Healthcare Begins with Embodiment.

When you read my website, the word “embodiment” gets used a lot.  I can’t help it … as a “somatic” practitioner, I’m all about the body!  I’ve become an expert at what feels good to my body, what I can eat and how I best digest.  I have learned how my body is most comforted, how it likes to moves, and what turns me on.  And because I consider myself a student of life, I tend to my mind’s needs for stimulation and inspiration that keep me learning, reading and discovering!     As a teacher and practitioner of “boundaries,”  it wasn’t until I got quiet and noticed the chain of events that happened time and again that triggered my health crashes , that I realized my “energetic (soul) boundaries” were the weak link.  My connection with soul was being left out of my embodiment practice because I was ignoring my inner voice and intuition on countless occasions. 

On my quest to balance mind, body and soul, I checked into the Optimum Health Institute in San Diego. My goal was to quiet my mind, rebuild my body with nutrient rich food, and begin a practice of connecting with my soul.  I wore a “silent” badge for the week so I could minimize outside influences and not take on anyone else’s stuff.  It was symbolic of my new found boundary to put my needs before the needs of others.  This was me time.  Time to clear the clutter and develop a deeper awareness to better hear my soul needs.  

I promise to get into boundaries in a future blog, but the take-away I want you to have right now is the importance of nourishing, loving, and refueling all aspects that make us uniquely human:  Mind, Body, and Soul.  And the way to do that is to develop a strong practice of embodiment.  Not surprisingly, when embodiment is not present, our fuel runs low. When all cylinders aren’t firing, it will most certainly affect the libido.  The need to sometimes take a break from sexy time is real and in many cases, it’s what’s needed. But if it becomes acute, it's a sign that there’s a bigger problem that needs your attention. 

I’m pleased to say that on the last night of my retreat, I reviewed all that I had discovered, let go of, and created. I felt realigned, but I I had a sense that something was still missing.  So I  asked my “higher self"... what else needed tending to on my healing journey?  And then I got a twinge and a pulse in-between my legs.  Yes. You read that correctly.  My Soul connected with my Body to encourage me to re-ignite my erotic pilot light.  And my Mind knows that when the pelvic floor beckons, we are on the right path!

​ It was literally the cherry on the sundae , the perfect climax to the end of my week, and a savory sample to what balancing our holy trinity looks, feels, and sounds like.  ​

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Don’t wait until your aches, pains, and voices get so loud that your body organizes itself in a way that only a devastating doctor diagnosis will stop you in your tracks. Instead, take two shots of embodiment and begin taking inventory of your mind, body, soul connection. And remember, when you feel a pelvic floor pulse that needs quenching, you are on the right track!