I feel like a stirring volcano rumbling inside with percolating heat firing all cylinders. My engine is warmed up, well-lubricated and ready for a long, meandering Sunday drive with the ability to not just handle fast turns, but to actually enjoy them!
I spent seven days at this incredible sensual retreat for women where I received erotic, nurturing, gratifying touch from male Sexolgical Bodyworkers. And shared tears and laughter during our sisterhood activities that warmed my heart. It was a retreat to indulge, to heal body image, to learn to truly surrender and receive, and to create a loop that keeps feeding itself.
It’s amazing how pleasure begets pleasure. I feel like I’m oozing creativity and sexuality.
Everything seems more meaningful. More beautiful. More sensational. More exciting.
No, I’m not taking any substances… it’s the circulating ménage à trois of my bliss hormones running its course though my blood and invigorating every single one of my cells.
I am choosing to FEEL what needs to be felt—instead of numbing out or altering the natural emotion and expression that’s there.
And what seems to be showing up is BEAUTY. RADIANCE. ACCEPTANCE. EMPOWERMENT.
Tension has evaporated.
I’ve found so many ways to fill myself—but this was NOT always the case. It’s an ongoing journey of search and discovery. We need to find ways to feed, nourish and care for ourselves. We need to continuously fill our cups.
It’s called PLEASURE. It’s called setting an INTENTION. It’s called doing your HOMEWORK. It’s called TAKING ACTION.
What are some ways that you can feed yourself? How can YOU fill yourself up ‘til your cup runneth over?
Until you can do some one-on-one sessions with me or get to a Back to the Body Retreat held all over the world year round, here is something YOU can do right now to take care of yourself and awaken your body - The Pleasure Muse version of the Lotus Lift Meditation.
Click here for step-by-step instructions. It’s the perfect thing to add to YOUR self-care journey.
Once I learned how to do this meditation, I was Lotus Lifting everywhere—in the hot springs, in the cold running river, in a field of sunflowers—even in the Zen Buddhist temple!
Whenever I needed 15 minutes to myself, I snuck away and Lotus Lifted! And, I’m doing it every morning now that I’m settling into our new home!
It’s about creating the pleasure you need to feed yourself, your life and your love. So much is possible when you take time for self-care.
Sit in a comfy cross-legged position on the floor in a private, quiet area. If necessary, sit on a pillow and lean back into a sturdy piece of furniture for more support.
Play meditative or empowering music (optional).
Close your eyes and deepen your breath.
Place your right hand in between your legs, cupping your vulva, just below your pubic bone. Place your left hand over your right hand to create more support and the ability to press in for more or less pressure.
As you press your hands onto your vulva, ROCK your torso back and forth. Adjust the pressure of your hands until you feel your genitals start to awaken, especially your clitoral structure.
Next, alter your position so your feet meet in the center as your legs butterfly out to the side. As you cup your vulva, flap your legs up and down to create a flapping butterfly movement that rocks your body.
The repeated rocking motion will help you sink into a meditative place, deepening your connection with your body. Do this for 60 seconds for up to 10 minutes.
You can also experiment with keeping yours legs and torso still as you move your pelvic floor in small circles while your hands are still placed over your vulva. Move in one direction and then reverse. This can be added to create heightened sensation and/or to move your body to the beat of any music that you might be playing.
If you are inspired to dance or stretch during this routine, please do! Just periodically bring your hands back to your vulva to reconnect with the rocking motion of your torso and/or legs while you indulge in deep, elongated breaths.
This Butterfly Lotus Lift is inspired by the teachings of Pamela Madsen at her Back to the Body Retreat. When we did it at the retreat, it was with a partner, leaning back to back.
I adapted the Lotus Lift Meditation and gave it my Pleasure Muse stamp of approval by adding in my own butterfly spin based on how my body likes to move —incorporating music, movement and optional dance at the end. Listen to your body and adjust the movements as you need.